What a lovely way to explain introversion.
There seems to be no better time than the present to do a touch of spring-cleaning. It’s one of those ideal situations when what doesn’t get finished today can still be continued tomorrow, and possibly the day after that. Cleaning out is not just about de-cluttering but is also known to have notable psychological and mental wellness benefits. Which is not to say it’s easy. It can be a very emotional process.
Let's face it, parting with that shirt you haven’t worn in two years because of the eternal “what if?” requires quite a bit of discipline.
I’ve been going through some old boxes that have been tucked up in the cupboard for years. My goodness, the amount of childhood bits and bobs that I’ve held on to! This includes a soap dispenser which now contains an ample amount of now radioactive yellow-coloured, SUPER liquid, liquid soap. I still haven’t thrown it out but I’m equally frustrated that I’ve held on to it. It is no longer useful and may even be a biohazard.
When going through your various collections and cupboard-stored goodies, ask yourself a few questions. That old tea set you inherited from a family member - is it better in pristine condition on a shelf in the cupboard or used and enjoyed for which it was designed? The same goes for special candles and soap.
When looking at stored objects, do they make you sad? Are you keeping them out of obligation? Is it better stored or will it be greatly appreciated and enjoyed by someone who isn’t in such a fortunate position to own such a thing? Those old craft supplies and half-used pencil crayons from your colouring-in phase, might a disadvantaged school make good use of them? Might another child find great joy in old forgotten toys your children no longer play with? Perhaps a charity box (or packet) is useful, one in which can be placed those belongings that a charity could sell to make money to support people and animals in need?
Absolutely, cleaning out is a difficult process. It may be a physical one but it is also an emotional one. Ultimately you get to decide, you don’t need to part with anything you don’t want to and you have your reasons for keeping things. Ultimately you know what fills you up or empties you.
It's important to find/make some structure to your day during the lockdown. While I talk more about this in another post, I wanted to share with you my form of art therapy. Art therapy is a great way to quieten the mind and spend your time in a meditative practice. The art if do you can do irrespective of whether you are an artist, a doodler or under 10. It's called surface patterns and you see them everyday - designs on everything from t-shirts, to material to bedding. You can create anything in any style. I use a tablet with an s-pen but you don't need digital means to get creating. A pencil and piece of paper, and if you want to, crayons, pastels, paints or any related media. Your drawings can be stylised or actual impressions, and can have colours that don't even make sense. To give you an example, I've put in a link to one of my drawings (I'm no artist but this I find fun) on Pinterest. You will find ample other examples and look for classes on YouTube. The link is http://pin.it//2nWTJdF. I've shared another one here.
If you get pattern making, please share. Do you find it therapeutic?
I like to tell people I'm in the business of change. I believe that everyone has a great capacity for changing their circumstances and adjusting to new ones. This has never been more prevalent than at a time where we are all aware of how the world is changing and what we've become accustomed to will never quite be the same. We must not forget however that human beings are born to change - from the foetus in the womb to all the developmental stages that come after birth, for all the life shifts and rites of passage, change is inevitable and manageable. How we face change is individual to each of us and for some change is harder than others or brings greater challenges than for others. Nevertheless, we face change everyday and we will all learn to adjust to new circumstances because we can. You can and you are able!
When all is said and done
(and it may have been a lot)
You made it.
No one can take that away from you.
During this oh so difficult period there are so many losses - loss of freedom, loss of human contact, losses financially and economically, loss of so many precious lives. Perhaps you can think of something you can be grateful for. Your answers may inspire and comfort others.